Your life is the message
Would not have deliberately attracted if you had been doing it on purpose, but much of your attraction is not done by deliberate intent, but rather by default…It is important to understand that you get what you think about, whether you want it or not. And chronic thoughts about unwanted things invite, or ask for, matching experiences. The law of attraction makes it so. Relationships, or co-creating with others.
Abraham Hicks.
Sometimes negative experiences seem to keep happening because we repeatedly think about them. Our subconscious mind has no sense of humor and takes everything seriously and anything we focus on will eventually manifest in our lives. I've noticed that my thoughts directly affect the words I use, how I interact with the world, and how I spend my time. By changing my thoughts, I was able to alter my reality. Realizing that I have control over my life and experiences changed the way I think, act, and speak. I used to believe that changing external factors like my location, relationships, hobbies, and habits would bring about change in my life. Though these things can contribute to my well-being, I realized that it's equally important to evaluate my inner world and understand how my thoughts and actions contribute to my reality. Taking the time to do this consistently can bring about true transformation.
These are some of the self-reflection questions I pose to myself to own fully and take responsibility for what I am creating:
-How am I contributing to this experience? Consider how your actions and choices are impacting your experience. Your thoughts, words, media consumption, time and energy allocation, and social circle all play a role. Begin by reflecting on these factors.
-Am I playing the victim? Do you ever feel like you're constantly playing the victim and blaming those around you for your struggles? Are you waiting for external changes to occur before you can find happiness?
-Are there any factors that may be hindering my healing process? These factors could include alcohol consumption, overeating, excessive television watching, engaging in sexual activity, indulging in gossip, or staying constantly occupied. Such distractions can delay your progress and even worsen your situation.
-Do I keep repeating the same behavior pattern? Sticking to familiar behaviors is common since we know what to expect from them, and it's easier than trying something new. We tend to repeat what we've learned.
Asking questions can lead to new paths of growth and healing. Each step forward opens up new possibilities for expansion and evolution. Here are some ways you can start cultivating your inner world to create change in your life:
Start with your breath
When I began my journey toward healing, I felt overwhelmed and wanted to do everything at once. The personal development world is full of information and can be challenging to navigate. I suggest setting aside a specific time for breathing exercises, not meditation. Start with a simple exercise by watching your breath come in and out. Expect your thoughts to come in quickly, as our brains are naturally addicted to thinking without any particular order. When this happens, return to focusing on your breathing and notice the small changes in your body. Reflect on your experience later and see what comes up for you. Try to relax your body while doing this exercise and let yourself be with no expectations. I recommend doing this first thing in the morning before checking your phone or doing anything else that stimulates your brain. Practicing this daily can lead to positive results.
2. Use movements such as yoga
The word "yoga" comes from the Sanskrit term "yuj," which means "to yoke" or "to unite." Its primary goal is to establish a connection between the mind, body, and spirit. Yoga emphasizes the mind over both the soul and the body. Our problems do not arise from our consciousness or our physical bodies; rather, they originate in the mind. According to the scriptures, "The mind is the ground for both bondage and liberation." Most of us are accustomed to living in a state of mind that fluctuates between being disturbed, distracted, and stunned, making it difficult for us to connect our bodies and senses. Consequently, we remain disconnected from who we are for most of our lives. To establish this connection, we must first discipline and purify our minds. This is where yoga comes in, aiding us in the process of slowing down our minds. Training our minds is akin to exercising any other muscle in our bodies.
3. Be open and curious
Through my open heart and natural curiosity, I have discovered profound experiences beyond what I was taught to be true. Approaching new experiences with the mindset of a curious toddler has helped me discover what truly resonates with my soul. So many people are held back by fear of the unknown, but by opening your heart and approaching things with fresh eyes and senses, you can learn so much about yourself and what brings you joy. I encourage you to challenge yourself and step out of your comfort zone, whether it be trying a new meal at a restaurant or taking on a new hobby. By embracing life's lessons, we can see just how rich and unique we truly are as individuals. Remember to wake up each day with a sense of curiosity and openness to experience all life offers. By cultivating these habits, we can let go of past experiences that may be holding us back and fully embrace the present moment. After all, the present moment is where everything we need can be found.
Incorporating healthy habits can create a positive momentum towards feeling good. It's best to take things one step at a time and see how it unfolds for you.
May this finds your heart open to receive.
